What happens when you are excited to embark on a journey and your family does not support you or even encourage you?
Your family and closest friends are the people you count on to be there for you no matter what. But sometimes, we have to take some personal steps and do things a little bit differently when we are embarking on a new and positive journey.
1) FIND A LIKE MIND. Seek out someone who is already doing what you want to do and ask them to be a mentor or adviser. At some point, this may turn into a friendship, but initially it just helps to talk to someone who knows what you are trying to do and can relate to it. They can be that positive sounding board you are looking for.
2) CHECK YOUR REACTION. Examine how you react to this lack of support and strengthen your inner core (your mind). Find a positive way to process the lack of support such as meditation, working out, etc. Remember you can't control their response but you can control yours! You will emerge a stronger person if you can negative inputs into positive outputs.
3) HONOR YOUR INTENTION. Write your thoughts down. By the time you are done writing, you will be in a better space to move forward. This also allows you to track the trends in someone's behavior towards you and your reaction to their behavior. Finally always write an intention for going forward at the end of each entry and try to keep this intention in mind for future interactions.
4) EMPOWER YOURSELF. Be decisive. Sometimes friends or family feel the need to help you make a decision and this can be confused with just supporting you. How many times have you told someone something and you just want them to listen instead of trying to always provide advice? Just make a decision and then discuss your decision. Make it abundantly clear what path you are on.
5) ELEVATE YOUR UNDERSTANDING. Try to understand why the person is behaving the way they are. It may have nothing to do with you and the sooner you understand that, the sooner you can frame their perspective as it relates to your journey. As a part of this, reflect on why you desire their support and if you really need it. Is a lack of self-love driving your need for support from others? Ask the hard questions. This understanding can help you change your approach to the important people in your life.
Ms. Bhakti Mary
I am an optimistic, positive, generous and driven woman who is passionate about self-improvement.
The essence of who you are does not lie in the past. What matters is what you are willing to do NOW. You are the presence.