For years I have been trying to find words to describe a guy I dated named Travis. Travis was a soul sinker. While on the outside he seemed to be trying to help me become a better person, he actually brought me down, way down.
Travis went to great lengths to find out every detail of my past whether it was childhood memories, previous relationships, financial status, etc. Though this should have been a warning sign, I continued in this relationship. Travis went from examining my past in excruciating detail to pile my mistakes and failures on me and continually humiliated me about my past. My past became a present nightmare where bits and pieces were thrown in my face. Travis just could not leave my past in the past.
Rather than focusing on the I AM, he focused on the I AM NOT. Think about that. Do you want people around you who constantly remind you of who you are not? I hope the answer is a confident and resounding NO! We should all strive to know who we are. Life is a lesson and Live in Self is a forum through which to share those lessons. Here is an exercise to try:
1) List ten I AM statements. Do this alone. No one else can say I AM for you. Think of your real genuine nature. What do you really believe about yourself?
● I am beautiful.
● I am confident.
● I am patient.
● I am peaceful.
● I am a great mother.
● I am a wonderful partner.
● I am well spoken.
● I am love.
● I am thoughtful.
● I am caring.
2) Create a personal statement that incorporates your I AM statements. The words you attach to I AM will find their way into your life.
I AM a beautiful, confident, caring woman who is happy to be a wonderful partner and great mother. I am a patient, caring, peaceful, thoughtful, and well spoken person. I AM LOVE.
3) Write your personal statement down on an index card. Speak or read your personal statement daily.
Sometimes it is fruitful to have healthy amnesia and forget about painful parts of our past and move on. MOVE!!!!
The name Travis is a fictional name used in substitute of the real name.
Ms. Bhakti Mary
I am an optimistic, positive, generous and driven woman who is passionate about self-improvement.
The essence of who you are does not lie in the past. What matters is what you are willing to do NOW. You are the presence.