Simple routines are key to making the best use of your time while at the same time developing yourself as a whole person. Many people have excuses for why they do not take care of themselves when the truth is that they have created absurd routines for each self care action that give them ample reason for ignoring themselves. There is no excuse.
God did not make most of us special by requiring that we go through complicated routines to take care of ourselves. We tend to want to establish ourselves as being different from everyone else because we have some unique excuse why we cannot take care of ourselves or some unique excuse for how we got where we are.
When we can let go of these things, then we can begin to clearly see how simple life can be. We can begin minimizing cost (time and money) and maximizing benefit (whole person development).
When you eat healthy, you feel better.
When you look nice, you feel confident.
When you have faith, you feel hopeful.
Health Tip #1:
Make healthy meals simple - breakfast prep should take 15 minutes or less most days. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day which of course tends to happen at the busiest time of the day. You're waking up - maybe you are not a morning person, you are rushing to get kids on the bus, and you are rushing to get to work on time. To stay on track for a healthy lifestyle, you have to have something quick and easy. Self-care often involves putting ourselves first - AND - putting ourselves first does not mean we are putting others last. It is simpler than that. We are choosing to start our day with a simple routine that is best for us like a healthy breakfast. When I make sure I get a healthy breakfast in the morning, no one was put last, but I did take care of myself first thing in the day.
I am 31 weeks pregnant and soon a new baby girl will be here. I will be spending a lot of time breastfeeding so I want to have a few simple breakfast recipes that are healthy and easy for my fiance to prepare for the family. He will be tired too so something simple is key! Going in, we won't have an excuse for not eating a healthy breakfast.
People tend to either have a financial excuse or 'lack of time' excuse for why they aren't eating healthy. I smile whenever someone quotes one of these factors as the reason they cannot eat healthy because I know that neither constitutes a valid reason.
Today for breakfast I had a parfait. This took less than 5 minutes to make and since I've increased my caloric intake due to pregnancy, I made a double serving.
Chocolate Raspberry Yogurt Parfait
Layer granola, organic whole milk yogurt - plain or vanilla flavor, and organic frozen or fresh raspberries.
Depending on how hungry you are, just increase or decrease the quantity of any ingredient.
Beauty Tip #1:
Create beauty routines that are simple and require little time. Anyone who knows me, knows I love looking nice and I try to look nice most of the time. I have even started realizing the importance of looking nice at home when I do not leave the house. I developed a beauty routine that takes between 10 and 30 minutes. Where I could save more time is in choosing an outfit to wear...this takes me way too long!
When I make sure I look nice in the morning, I teach my children the importance of looking nice and I am a good example for them. Looking put together will help them as they grow up, as they seek jobs, and when they find themselves in a position where their confidence is waning. It's a good habit to have.
People tend to either have a financial excuse or 'lack of time' excuse for why they do not look nice. I smile whenever someone quotes one of these factors as the reason they cannot look put together because I know that neither constitutes a valid reason.
I straighten my hair sometimes. When I do, I receive a lot of compliments and people always ask how long it took me because they assume that this takes me a long time. I have very long hair - almost flowing down my entire back now. The truth is it only takes me a total of 30-45 minutes extra to straighten it. Here's how I do it.
1) Shampoo and condition hair as part of normal shower routine.
2) Comb as part of normal post shower routine.
3) Add pea sized drop of L'oreal Smooth Intense Straight Perfecting Balm.
4) Tie hair in a bun and leave to dry for about 24 hours. (saves blow drying time and hair damage)
5) Untie and straighten w/ Chi Flat Iron.
Now straightening my hair actually reduces my hair preparation time and saves me money for the next week or two. I don't wash my hair for at least a week, (saves water and time), I don't have to add many hair products to make it look nice (saves money), and I don't spend as much time making it look nice each morning (saves time).
Another thing I consider prior to straightening my hair is the weather for the week. If there's a lot of rain in the forecast, then I choose a more practical style for that week like a simple bun or natural curly hair.
Spiritual Tip #1:
Incorporate worship or prayer into your normal daily activities. Gratitude is central to my spiritual practice. It keeps me grounded, centered and humble.
People tend to have a lack of time' excuse for why they do not have a spiritual practice. I smile whenever someone quotes this factor as the reason they do not have a spiritual routine because I know that it cannot and should not constitute a valid reason.
As I am typing this blog on Sunday morning, I am playing gospel music which has a spiritual message and serves to make my work a living worship. As I was waking up this morning, I said my prayers of gratitude before I got out of bed.
Spiritual acts don't necessarily have to involve going to church each week or reading a religious text for 15 minutes a day.
Just do what works for you - whatever makes you whole - with the time and money you have. And if you've been making excuses this whole time, it's time to examine those excuses and determine if they are actually valid.
Ms. Bhakti Mary
I am an optimistic, positive, generous and driven woman who is passionate about self-improvement.
The essence of who you are does not lie in the past. What matters is what you are willing to do NOW. You are the presence.