In the book The Pocket Chogyam Trungpa, the gift of fearlessness is described as a type of generosity. The gift of fearlessness is defined as reassuring others and teaching them that they do not have to feel completely tormented and freaked out about their existence. It is aiding others in seeing the basic goodness that exists in the world and aiding others in realizing that there is a way to sustain their life. I am reminded of people that I know that believe that their existence is continuously morphed in a negative manner by their surroundings and circumstances.
The truth is that to exist fearlessly, we have to be willing to see ourselves. Do you look at yourself directly? Do you know yourself? Are you afraid of seeing yourself? Do you exist in comfortable frameworks as a method to avoid self exploration? What frameworks allow you to “safely exist” without truly facing yourself?
In this moment, I face the side of myself that has struggled to manage my finances, the side of myself that sabotaged romantic relationships of mine and others, and the side of myself that has struggled to be fully engaged as a mother. Have you struggled in these areas too?
In my writing, I will often explore and admit parts of myself that are seemingly embarrassing. People often ask why I write about those embarrassing moments. When you do question these admissions, I would challenge you to tell me some part of yourself that you are embarrassed to admit. Use my admissions to generate bravery and courage within yourself to study who you really are. Unfold your habitual patterns that surround the lies you tell others about yourself. When you do this, you will begin to feel relieved. When you have faced the reality of life, you can start moving forward instead of moving in unproductive and lie-based perpetuity that has served you no good.
Now, I still believe that as humans, we all have a fundamental state of goodness within and we should certainly work to project this. I certainly see and appreciate the sense of goodness that emanates from so many areas of the universe. At the same time, we should not be condemned for our desires for the most part. But let us go BEYOND our fear and this is what is described as fearlessness.
Certainly everyone wants you to be extraordinary, but it is good to be okay with being ordinary. Accept yourself just as you are and then use your imperfections as you progress and improve. Make them part of the journey.
Today, I give you the gift of fearlessness. Do not fear. Do not doubt. Do be courageous. Seek out an inner circle that gives you this gift so you can study your truths in a safe environment and move forward in a positive direction.
Ms. Bhakti Mary
I am an optimistic, positive, generous and driven woman who is passionate about self-improvement.
The essence of who you are does not lie in the past. What matters is what you are willing to do NOW. You are the presence.